Today was a real eye opener to me when it comes to relationships and what it truly means to be in love with another person. My friend Cynthia and I began talking about relationships and how it seems that there are two different kinds of girls when it comes to the topic. The girls who have an overly romantic idea of relationships, and those who see things in a more realistic light.
Those girls who see things more romantic tend to want to be married within a an hour of having a boyfriend while the more real people... well they are smart enough to see the things the way they are.
The problem with this is that while in college I think that being in a relationship is different simply because you are in that in between stage. In high school being with a person means having a romantic idea of everything and the main goal of it all is to last to college. After college dating is just for marriage really. But in college you do it for both fun and marriage. In college being with a person is different because you are trying to find yourself just as much as the other person is.
As my friend and I are dicussing this we realized that it is generally at the year and a half mark that problems tend to occur with people our age. That is when the changes tend to take the better of people. It is amazing how it works.
Maybe this is why I am still single, I do not want to deal with this relationship drama. I know I am still in the stage in my life when I am trying to find who I am as a person, and find what I should do with my life. I refuse to help someone else look for themselves and to be a buffer in that stage.
So good luck to all my college aged peers who are in relationships and are helping someone on their path to self discovery. God knows I do not have the strength for that.
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